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Vat savitri~A fast for the husbands long and healthy life

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Vat Savitri or vat pournima is a fast kept by Indian ladies for their husbands long and healthy life.It is mostly followed in gujrat,Maharashtra and Karnataka,India.Pournima means the “Full Moon”day (the 15) of the month of jyeshta on the Hindu calendar,which falls in June in the Gregorian calendar.This is a legendary story of satyavan and Savitri. It shows how a women’s strengths and wits can keep her husband from dying.It had been foretold that satyavan will not live long.Resting on his wife’s lap satyavan was waiting for his death under a banyan tree.The messenger of Yama,the GOD of death came for satyavan but Savitri refused to depart from her beloved husband.Every messenger tried but in vain,to take life out of satyavan.Finally Yama himself appeared and insisted on taking satyavan,but since Savitri was very adamant Yama offered her a boon and she asked for the well being of her in laws which was granted.While Yama was taking satyavan along with him Savitri followed them,looking at this Yama granted her another boon and Savitri asked for the well being of her parents.This boon too was granted.Savitris stubbornness and relentless nature did not stop her from following Yama.As they approached yamas abode he granted her a third boon.Savitri then smartly asked for a son and outwitted yama.He was forced to return her husbands soul back to his body.

The fast here is followed by offering prayers to the banyan tree.Ladies dress in bridal wear and tie a thread to the banyan tree by going around it seven times.In their hearts they pray to have the same husband in every life and also pray for his health and long life.Kumkum or red tilak is put on the tree and fruits are exchanged among ladies.It feels very nice to keep this fast as it also resembles strong love and compatibility between a married couple.

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Selfless love

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I am the blessed and fortunate one to have the best mother,though difficulties in life forced me to wonder if my mom could have the same thought about me.As a child I was very sweet,stubborn,demanding and difficult to please,but since I was my mothers daughter she too possessed almost the same qualities but in the positive matured ways.She was sweeter than me,never ever gave up on me,demanded that I possess more of good emotions being lenient and though in difficulties pleased me with all that I demanded.I was clearly a troubled child and my mom was warned that by my paediatric at the age when I was seven.Due to the stigma then and her fight with her life, I wasn’t shown to a psychiatrist.

Today I’m a proud mother of a daughter.I call her my mirror image.While giving her birth I was hit by postpartum psychosis.Needless to mention,I was a mother in disguise of a monster.I always for more than 14 years of her innocent days made her feel guilty of her existence and the prime reason of my miseries.As GOD has it’s own ways of dealing,my husband was the balance and support of both mother and daughter.Faith having its own mood swings favoured me and while it was not too late let me improve my relation with my daughter.Me being in guilt for my monster mother ways,made the best of what was offered by our faith.It was a 360 degree change for my daughter to realise and absorb her newly found mother,but faith had to prove itself and again today I’m blessed like my own mother.To all my daughters teenager problems I have the best experience and my own mothers will and strengths while dealing with her.I would love to boast just one solution I give my daughter when sometimes her grades suffer due to her age,I tell her it’s you who have to be someone talented and career oriented to sustain in your life,I’m a mother and my love will not increase or decrease with your fluctuating grades.I will always forever love you.